Project RACE Grandparents

Isabel Guarco’s NY Times article about visiting the birthplace of a grandmother and a culture she has never known is poignant and thought-provoking.  We so often focus on physical similarities (or dissimilarities) of multi-racial heritage and give the cultural aspects less attention.  Part of understanding who we are is seeking to understand, appreciate and honor all parts of our racial and cultural heritage.  Guarco’s parents set a wonderful example of helping her assimilate all parts of her history by telling her stories of the Filipino grandmother she never knew.  As grandparents of multiracial grandchildren, these stories are key not only to rounding out your grandchild’s understanding of his/her heritage, but also to spark healthy curiosity.  And, as I like to think of it, in doing so you are helping create a citizen of the world, not just one country….and we could use more of those!

Read the article here:

Beth McNally

Project RACE Grandparents President



A New Year…

A new year and a new Project RACE Grandparents President! We welcome Beth McNally to our Project RACE family. Please read Beth’s bio below. We’re very excited about her commitment to our multiracial grandchildren.

Beth McNally received her B.A. from Indiana University in Bloomington, IN and currently works for a law firm in Northern Virginia in the field of trust/estate and guardianship administration.  She has previously owned her own business and has also worked for non-profit groups handling bequests.   Beth is a volunteer in local politics, Best Friends Animal Society, the Fairfax County Public School System and A Simple Gesture (a food bank group).  She lives in the suburbs of Washington DC and is the mother of two adult children and the very proud grandmother of Campbell who was born in 2012 (at her house!) and is biracial. She looks forward to learning about and sharing resources with other grandparents of multicultural grandchildren.




Pattibarry Family

Grandparents are in the wonderful position to be able to pass on to their grandchildren knowledge and wisdom the has mellowed and deepened over many years. Finding special books to read together that offer opportunities to share that wisdom through discussion, whether the books are serious vs. silly, long or short, or fiction vs. nonfiction, are one of the great joys we have when interacting with our little ones. For multiracial families, it is a bonus to find books that feature multiracial characters.

As my grandson turns 18 months old this month, I have grown to appreciate the many blogs and book lists to be found on the internet that feature multiracial characters. A search using ‘multicultural books for children’ will certainly help you find a multitude of reading options. A particular favorite of mine can be found at, and to celebrate the upcoming Grandparents Day, here is a link to an article posted there last year at this time. . My favorite list on that blog is called 10 Laugh Out Loud Funny Multicultural Picture Books.

To read the book description, I found that I have to go on Amazon and type the book title in the search bar instead of clicking on the link in the list, but the lists found on the blog, and in many other blogs that are found online, are great starting points to find reads that enhance our time with our grandchildren.

Happy browsing.

Patti Barry

Project Race Grandparents

Photo Credit: Patty Barry

PRGrandparents Prez shares Kids Books with Multiracial Families

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The parents-to-be, my daughter and son-in-law at their baby shower.





My grandson is almost here!  My daughter, Steph, says the baby has dropped.  I am so excited, and have been looking at books, even though he won’t be old enough to understand them for a while.  :). Anyway, I found several lists of children’s books with multiracial families and thought I’d share a few of the books with our members and readers:

Patti, President of Project RACE Grandparents


You Were the First features one Asian and one Caucasian parent sharing about their child’s firsts.


The Hello, Goodbye Window. This book features a young girl who has both African-American and white grandparents. A Caldecott Award winner.

Another Caldecott Award winner, More More More features three diverse families.



Marisol McDonald Doesn’t Match features a Scottish and Peruvian little girl. A Pura Belpré Honor Award Book.


Everywhere Babies. This book features beautiful babies from all over the world.



I Love Saturdays y domingos is a about a girl who spends Saturdays with her English-speaking grandparents and Sundays with her Spanish-speaking abuelos.


Jalapeno Bagels.
Pablo is Mexican and Jewish.



Dumpling Soup. This family is Korean, Hawaiian, Japanese and Chinese!





Oscar’s Half Birthday. Oscar has a black mother and a white father.



My Two Grannies and My Two Grandads. In this pair of books, one grandparent is from the Carribbean, the other from England.


What books would you add to this list?

Three things that made me happy yesterday!

Sharing a Black Cherry Smoothie with my Great Grandmother Tucker Dear !

Yesterday I went out for an after-school snack with my 97 year old great grandmother. We call her “Great Grandmother Tucker Dear”. She is awesome. She was born in 1915. Her mom was a telephone operator when phone numbers only had 2 or 3 digits. She still remembers when her dad surprised her with her first bike. Later she worked as a nurse taking care of babies during World War II.

I like when she tells me about how different things were when she was my age and she likes learning about things that are new. Sometimes the changes we talk about show that things have gotten worse in the world and sometimes that things have gotten better. Lots of people my great grandma’s age still think about things the old way. I’m happy that my grandma is way too smart for that. She knows you can’t tell what a person is like because of their race and that one race is no better or worse than another.  She loves me for me!

Sometimes I tell her about what we are doing at Project RACE. She is a member of our new division Project RACE Grandparents! Yesterday I got to tell her some good news. I was just nominated for a scholarship from a big national department store. That’s good news, but it gets better!  On the nomination form they had a multiracial option under racial categories. I LOVE when that happens. It feels good to have an option that actually fits me! I like to know that people (besides my family) think about kids like me!

My Great Grandmother Tucker Dear, a Black Cherry Smoothie and Multiracial on a scholarship form…  Yesterday was a great day!

– Karson Baldwin

We Share the Same Blood: I am Your Grandchild!

Well, this is my first post on behalf of Project RACE Grandparents! A few months ago, PRKids President, Karson Baldwin, reviewed three wonderful children’s books by Dr. Cherrye S. Vasquez (available on our website).  Below are excerpts from a recent blog by Dr. Vasquez that directly addresses grandparents of multiracial children – particularly those who have not accepted their grandchildren! As the adoring grandma of three amazing multiracial grandchildren, it is so difficult to understand the sad reality that some of my generation choose not to have a relationship with their own grandchildren. This is reposted for them. 
– Freda Brown


By Dr. Cherrye S. Vasquez

It’s a sad realization, but there are a few multiracial or biracial children who do not have a relationship with their grandparents and only because of one glaring reason – The child is biracial! Some grandparents cannot accept the fact that their own child has entered into relations with another who is of a different racial make-up than theirs.

I wonder how many grandparents who choose not to have a relationship with their biracial grandchildren realize the emotional effect they pose on these children, and for what good reason. Isn’t life far too short for this sort of nonsense?

Come on grandma and grandpa – It’s been 45 years since interracial marriages became legal in states. By now you’d think that most of us would come to terms with the fact that during this 21st century America we will see more and more interracial families among us. Isn’t it the right of any man or woman to have the freedom to marry whoever they want to? Isn’t this a person’s given right to live happily ever after with any person that they choose to regardless of their race?

I know that some people will have a problem with me bringing religion into this conversation, but I think a good question to ask is how God would tell us to handle this issue. I don’t think that he would approve of grandparents ill-treating their own flesh and blood – grandchildren, do you?

Grandparents, your biracial grandchildren are not:

  • Bastard children – since their parents are married
  • Mentally and physical inferior to your race – let this myth die
  • Second rated citizens – many are beautiful and talented
  • To be looked at as Minority citizens, but Biracial and/or Multiracial – They do not have to choose one race over the other if they do not want to
  • Prisoners of the Jim Crow “one drop rule” – help them denounce it!

Biracial children have the right to be recognized as be biracial. Their racial identity of who they are will be important so that they can be happy citizens in our society who can and will grow up proud, armoring self-pride/confidence as they resist the messages of racism from others. It’s too bad they can’t count on you!

Biracial children should be taught that they will encounter people who will ill-treat them, so they should be able to count on the support of their very own grandparents as they journey through the unavoidable racism of others. Racism permeates their lives as it is. The biracial child should be able to look to their very own family as a source of support and love. It is the families of the biracial child who help strengthen them, and help them deal with racial myths and unnecessary hatred and conflicts.

Grandparents, your biracial grandchild has the right to racial equality. Why wouldn’t he/she have that right? Don’t you think it silly for them not to have racial equality solely based on their racial identity? Are you willing to help your biracial child confront and deal with the struggles of racism? If not, why not? Do you understand the implications of social and racial inequalities that mixed-race children are faced with when people further hurt and isolate them?

Stop for a moment and examine your own life grandma/grandpa:

  • Are you seen as loving fair people, or Are you wearing a mask and hiding your true feelings of hate and vile?
  • Can you really hate/mistreat your very own blood – your grandchild?
  • Do you choose your friends and associates based on the color of their skin?

I think there is work to be done in this area, and grandparents can play a huge part in first steps by accepting and embracing their grandchildren with the love and support they need and deserve to survive peacefully in this society. Will you do your part grandparents? If not, it’s time for you to come to your senses and recognize the error of your ways. Life is too short to miss out on the fun times that can be enjoyed with your beautiful biracial grandchildren.

Grandparents — it’s time to get past this issue. Love your grandchildren regardless of their racial-makeup – Wake up!


Project RACE starts new Grandparents Division!

We have Project RACE, Project RACE Kids, and Project RACE Teens serving multiracial families. Now Project RACE announces the opening of Project RACE Grandparents! Today, September 9th is National Grandparents Day and we honor grandparents everywhere. We are now accepting applications for the president of PR Grandparents. Please send the following to
  1. Name
  2. City, State
  3. Email address
  4. Brief statement about why you think you would make a good president of Project RACE Grandparents (500 words or fewer).